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Does your life prevent deep and abiding friendships?

Here is a quote from a recent article.  The full text can be read here - it is about America but I believe it is true for Australia as well.

Developing meaningful friendships—having the kind of people in your life who were once known as “intimates”—takes time, but too many of us are locked in what social critic Barbara Ehrenreich has called “the cult of conspicuous busyness,” from which we seem to derive status and a certain perverse comfort even as it alienates us from one another. Throw in two careers and some kids, and something’s got to give. The poet Kenneth Koch, whose friends included the brilliant but childless John Ashbery and Frank O’Hara, laid out the problem in verse:

You want a social life, with friends.

A passionate love life and as well

To work hard every day. What’s true

Is of these three you may have two.

You might like to read the article and then come back and leave some comments below - anonymously if you prefer.

What are some of the changes you could make to your current life?

What is stopping you make them?  Is the cost too high?  Does it seem too much of a risk?  How big a factor is just going with the flow?

David Wanstall, 18/08/2010